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Stages of Gay Development
While still very young the exploration about
one's sexuality starts happening. Although when one is young the preferences
such as a man liking another man might be there as much, but it will be about
time before they come out in the open as sexual preferences are affected
to a large extent by the people around you. And for that matter, you might
just discount that aspect of sexuality as until now you haven't really ventured
out of your coterie to see that the world outside has relationships that
permits relationships between the same sexes.
The next stage is coming to terms with your
sexual preferences. It is not unusual to suffer from the pangs of this awareness
in the beginning with the individual harboring the thoughts of fear and
uncertainty. At this stage the person might still have certain negative notions
attached with being gay. However, as the person comes to term with his sexuality,
he wants to explore the unfamiliar terrain of meeting new men and seeking
relationships with them. In this stage the person is exploring wherein he
is treading a new path as he wants to meet more of his ilk. In this stage
all this might be carried out in private without the knowledge of friends
or family as at this stage the person might not be comfortable with the idea
of "coming out" in the open about his sexuality. The person can frequent
gay bars, forums where it is easy to find a date for oneself. The person
can also allay his fears and get to know more about the gay culture in the
chat rooms and websites on the Internet, that are a great platform for knowledge
and interaction.
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Once a person is through his accumulation of all the
knowledge, has dated a number of men or is already in a relationship it's
about time that the person is ready to accept the fact that he is a gay.
Around this time he can be more proud and assertive of the fact that he happens
to be a gay rather than hiding his sexual preferences in the closet. This
also ensures that he has opened himself to form relationships on his own
terms and preferences. Last but not the least, once the person has come to
terms with the fact of his being a gay, it is about time that the person
goes out in the open about his sexuality in the open to those who happen
to be the closest to him, be it his friends or his family. Although, the
"coming out" might not be looked at by everyone in the same supportive or
affirmative way but this is an important step for the individual who no longer
feels the need to hide or lie about his sexual preferences.
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